I just got reminded today about how much my birthday sucks. This is because I was talking about going home for my birthday weekend. Butterfly decided to point out:"well no offence but valentines is a sucky day to have a birthday if you want to come home on it, cos even if we werent having a girls night at the hotel, and a guys night whereever they go, we would be doig things with our boyfriends/girlfriends for valentines day, no?"
I wasn't even asking if they would do something with me on my birthday, just the day before and after. But that was a nice stab to the heart. I've been aware of how much having a birthday on the 14th sucks ever since I was in elementary school. The other children got cards from the other kids on their birthday. I got a "P.S. happy birthday" on the bottom of the regular generic valentine cards that kids give each other.
Then as I got older it sucked even more. I couldn't have the birthday parties on my birthday because my friends had to go out with their boyfriends/girlfriends (or my boyfriend at the time would insist on spending it with just me). So I have never had a birthday party on my birthday.
And sometimes parents like to celebrate valentines day. But mine are pretty good at only doing it if I have other plans.
You see Valentines Day can suck more than other holiday birthdays (although I admit that the getting jipped on presents at christmas can suck too). Most of them involve the gathering of family and friends anyways. Thanksgiving, Christmas, are big family holidays. New Years eve, Halloween, St.Patty's day, Canada Day, are all big party days. Dual holidays can be celebrated. But Valentines day has it's own little tradition. People pair off and go celebrate on their own. So there is no big party, no gathering of friends.
So Valentines day can be a VERY lonely birthday.
So what is the point of this rant? I don't need anyone pointing out to me why my birthday sucks. I'm fully aware of it and it's really painful when people think they need to explain to me why it sucks. I think they should explain why my friends (past and present) can never move their plans one day forward or one day back and celebrate my birthday on the day it was ment to be celebrated.
And unless you have a holiday birthday, you have no right to judge how a person feels about that day. Current Mood: